In the month of love I have seen many clients who were seeking insight around the topic of control. More specifically:
- clients getting themselves into difficult situations because they attempted to control a situation and other people did not appreciate it
- clients who have let others control them and needed insight about how they could change that
- clients who are fed up with feeling as if they don’t have control seeking insight for what is making them feel that way
- clients who feel it is their responsibility to control things and are tired of having that responsibility assigned to them
So many different clients seeking insight around the topic of control in the last 30 days!
As someone who channels information to others I also get the benefit of hearing what is channeled. Today I wanted to share with you a few things I have learned by listening to my clients and listening to their spirit guides about control over the past month.
- You cannot control other people you can only control yourself. If you are focused on how to make someone (other than yourself) different, your energy is misdirected. This is where people are confused about how to establish or set healthy limits or boundaries with another person. We can only control ourselves and for most of us that is challenge enough.
- If you are frustrated or angry or upset because you cannot get your own way or you are not getting what you deserve, you are responsible for soothing yourself. Self soothing is a necessary skill. Sometimes we also want or need support from others and this can also be helpful AND as an adult, each of us needs to know how to sooth ourselves so that our anger and anxiety does not escalate to a level where we are out of control.
- There are many different ways to cope. Coping skills can be developed at any point in life and it might be a good idea to reflect on your methods of coping with stress, fear, disappointment, frustration. Your comping skills might be different for each one or the same. You might have a limited variety of options that you choose from. It might be a good time to develop some additional (and healthy) coping skills.
- Be compassionate with yourself. Knowing how to be respectful, how to disagree without making another person wrong or small, and how to be supportive of another person who makes decisions different from yours; these skills are not natural for most of us and need to be developed so that our behavior matches our values and beliefs.
Until next time, Love and Light